9 Tips Every Birth Support Person Needs to Know
Hey partners, dads, girlfriends, sisters, doulas-in-training — this one’s for you.
If someone you love is about to give birth, don’t just be an observer. Be their anchor.
These are our top 9 must-know tips for support people.
Know Your Role: This is their labor, not your battle. You’re the protector of space, vibes, and snacks.
Do Your Homework: Birth classes, articles, birth plan reviews — learn ahead of time so you’re not asking 101 questions mid-contraction.
Master the Atmosphere
Dim the lights.
Control the playlist.
Keep distractions minimal.
Be the Snack Ninja: No one wants a 7-11 stop on the way to the hospital. Pack and prep snacks + drinks ahead of time.
Zip the Complaints: Don’t ask “how much longer.” Don’t compare your tired to hers. Just… don’t.
Capture the Memories: Take photos and videos. Even if she groans about them later, she’ll be thankful someday.
Be the Advocate: When she’s vulnerable, you’re her voice. Know her non-negotiables and speak them with conviction.
Stay Calm: Match chaos with calm. Your energy matters more than you realize.
Offer Affirmations: “You’re so strong.” “You’ve got this.” “One step closer to meeting baby.” Say the words. They matter.
Final Thoughts
Your presence can shape her birth experience — for better or worse. Choose better. Share this guide with your partner, and head to YouTube for more support strategies from Mama Nurse Tina.
